What to Know About Grief During the Holidays

The holidays often bring a mix of emotions: Joy. Togetherness. Tradition. But if you’re grieving the loss of someone you love, this time of year can feel overwhelming or even isolating. 

Whether your grief is fresh or decades old, whether you’re anticipating a loss or already navigating the aftermath, the holidays can stir up feelings you weren’t expecting. That’s normal. And you’re not alone.

Below are some essential things to keep in mind about grief during the holiday season — and ways you can care for yourself or support others who are grieving.

Grief doesn’t follow a calendar.

Grief isn’t seasonal and it doesn’t expire. The holidays might bring your emotions closer to the surface, even if your loss occurred years ago. The smell of a favorite meal, a song on the radio, or the absence of a familiar laugh can hit hard. Be kind to yourself and allow whatever comes up to come up without judgment.

There’s no “right” way to feel.

Joy. Sorrow. Anger. Gratitude. Numbness. Grief can include all of it, sometimes all at once. Don’t pressure yourself to feel festive if you’re not up to it. And if moments of joy do arrive, welcome them. Grieving and celebrating can coexist.

Traditions can be flexible.

It’s okay to change how you celebrate. You might skip some traditions, start new ones, or find comfort in doing things exactly the same. There’s no blueprint — only what feels manageable and meaningful to you.

Try creating a new tradition in honor of your loved one, like hanging a special keepsake or sharing a memory during a holiday meal.

Accept help – and ask for it.

Grief can be physically and emotionally exhausting. Lean on your support system. Say yes when people offer to help with meals, errands, or decorating. If you need a quiet exit from an event, plan ahead for that too.

You don’t have to do it alone.

Support is always available. Crossroads Hospice & Palliative Care offers bereavement resources to families and the community — whether your loss was recent or long ago, or you’re preparing for the passing of a loved one now. We’re here to listen, guide, and support.

Reach out to us at 888-603-6673, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

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