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Gift of a Day Feature Story October 2014

Gift of a Day

We develop unique plans of care that include a Gift of a Day, our special program inspired by author Jim Stovall’s popular book “The Ultimate Gift.” Since its inception, we have helped thousands of hospice patients experience the perfect day. That day is based on the question: “If you had one perfect day, what would it look like?” Our staff members, volunteers and local businesses work together to bring these perfect days to life for our hospice patients.

Jack ’o Lanterns Rekindle Childhood Memories

By the fall of 1934, many of Oklahoma’s farms were going bankrupt as land turned from fertile soil to a parched dust bowl. Thankfully, Mary Werner’s 70+ acre family farm was still afloat – after all, it was the site of the spookiest, most elaborate Halloween party in town! Mary, age 10, was busting at the seams with excitement and talked nonstop about every detail as she rode her horse through the haze of dust.

undefinedEvery October 31st, Mary put on the same costume – a creepy, blood-red bridal gown – and bobbed for apples, danced, laughed, and nibbled on sweet treats with her friends and family in her grandfather’s barn. Adorned with fake spider webs, laughing skeletons, jack ’o lanterns, hanging ghosts and a giant, frothy witch’s cauldron, the Werner Family Farm was transformed into a real-life fright fest!

And, Mary loved every second.

undefinedBy age 90, however, Halloweens at the old family farm were a distant memory for Mary. Yet it was all she had left of that iconic family jewel until Crossroads took Mary on a journey back in time…re-creating her most beloved childhood experience – cauldron and all!

Mary, dressed in a bright clown costume, joined a gaggle of ghosts and goblins for a Monster Mash. Over 30 of her friends along with her grandson, his wife and their son enjoyed playing a variety of kid games like ‘Pin the Tail on the Donkey,’ although, Mary – the little vixen – said that she would rather be playing Spin the Bottle. (Wink, wink!)

undefinedMary jumped right into the action, too, dancing to the oldies especially hits from her favorite artist – Elvis Presley. She even got a chance to dance with the ‘King,’ flirting and honking her clown horn the whole time. Partygoers enjoyed a themed lunch including bottles of witches’ brew. Mary partied like she was raising the dead that afternoon, carrying on like she was once again that exuberant 10 year-old girl.

Married to a military man, Mary had lived in 14 different countries over her lifetime but never outgrew the crisp fall days on the family farm in Oklahoma. Thanks to Crossroads, she returned to that special time and place she called home…a most precious gift without a price tag.